When I keep my agreements I increase my physical energy!

 I spoke about this two weeks ago in my post My Favorite Way to Create More Physical Energy, read it Here if you missed it.

"My energy level goes up the more accurate I am with doing what I say I am going to do.  After all trust is a bi product of consistently keeping agreements.  The people I trust most in my life are the ones that do what they say they are going to do".

So once the power of agreements is realized, then what? how does one go about creating a life of rich agreements increasing aliveness?! 

I believe it starts with feeling empowered to make and keep agreements by first learning how.  Most of us were raised in homes where we were taught to say yes, YES is the friendly way, saying No can be limiting.  Ok, maybe that was just my house, but really I think it starts with an education and learning about how to create a new relationship with agreements and possible un learning of old ideas. 

Here are the Bare Essentials of making and keeping agreements:

(from The Corporate Mystic)

• Think carefully before you make an agreement. It is much easier to not make an agreement than it is to get out of one you no longer want to keep.

• Make only agreements that you feel a heart connection with. If you don’t have heart behind the agreement, whether it’s your child’s baseball game or attending the annual shareholder’s meeting, why bother? Agreements that are unimportant to you, but that you make anyway, have a tendency to come back and haunt you later because some intuitive person will perceive that you are not really there.

• Scrupulously keep the agreements you make.

• If you have a life any more complicated than, say, a sheepherder, be sure to write agreements down. Taking them out of your mind and putting them on paper frees up more of your creative energy.

• Make agreements only about things that you have control over. 

I have experienced a high level of liberation around agreements.  Especially in my closest relationships.  I find, without agreements I feel like I am floating around in the unknown, assumptions can easily be made and it becomes much easier to be out of flow with the people I am in relationship with.  

When you evaluate your relationships in business with close friends and family, is there an opportunity to create agreements to increase aliveness? 

Agreements can be as simple as meeting for dinner at a said time and then showing up on time, or as formal as a business agreement that creates terms for the company.  Regardless of the context of the agreement, the most important part is that there is one, all parties involved will benefit from clear and concise agreed upon terms.  

Thank you for reading! I am loving creating my #wakeupwednesday posts. 

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Lindsey Rainwater is an experienced consultant and coach  to the fitness and wellness industry.  She specializes in business development and leadership. Currently she is working with the Fitmarc Team helping club owners all over the south central region of the united states propel their business forward via group exercise solutions.  For more information about lindsey, follow her @lindseyrainh2o

Have you ever said yes, and right after saying yes you realize you meant NO?

For example, your calendar is jam packed and that one friend who is only in town for one day calls and asks you to get coffee, and you say yes.  Meanwhile spending way too much time shuffling up your day to make it all work.  Familiar?

Saying YES when you mean NO. 

One of the most important lessons I have learned and am still learning is to let my NO's be No's and my Yes's be Yes's.

Why does this matter?  The energy it takes to live out of alignment with what you really want is one of THE biggest energy drains you can possibly dance with.

At the root of this concept is that of making agreements and commitments.  I love Kathlyn Hendricks definition of Agreements and Commitments,

"An agreement is anything you have said you would do or anything you said would not do.  Agreements are created between 2 or more people, whereas commitments are between you and the universe".  

What I have noticed is that when I make an agreement with someone, even as simple as coffee at seven pm, and then I keep that agreement, I feel more alive as a result of doing what I say I am going to do.  The same goes for myself, when I make a commitment to wake up and exercise before work, and I then do that, I feel better all day having honored my commitment.

 My energy level goes up the more accurate I am with doing what I say I am going to do.  After all trust is a bi product of consistently keeping agreements.  The people I trust most in my life are the ones that do what they say they are going to do.

When I became more thoughtful about the concept of agreements and commitments as defined above, my energy level began to rise.  By only really doing the things I wanted to do, I have way more energy to be present and available to what I have said Yes to instead of "getting through" what I really don't want to be doing.

As you go through your day, notice when you say YES and when you say NO and ask yourself if you are telling the truth.  In my experience I gained a heap of energy being in integrity with what I really want on a regular basis.  

My next few #WakeupWednesday posts are going to center around agreements and increasing energy as a result! looking forward to sharing more on the topic! 

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Lindsey Rainwater is an experienced consultant and coach  to the fitness and wellness industry.  She specializes in business development and leadership. Currently she is working with the Fitmarc Team helping club owners all over the south central region of the united states propel their business forward via group exercise solutions.  For more information about lindsey, follow her @lindseyrainh2o