Posts tagged positive thinking
Give Your Choice a Sexy Voice!

Taking active responsibility to request what you want is the fastest track to sexiness, giving you the power of choice vs. blame! 

 

The last installment of #WakeUpWednesday was all about gaining access to your sexiest self!

The discovery I wrote about is that taking responsibility for your choices instead of assigning blame to others for your feelings or circumstances. This sweet spot is where you gain access to your true aliveness. 

Today I am sharing about what it is like after shifting from defensiveness/blame, what becomes the new filter for communication with others?  

Wonder and Curiosity. 

What does that look like? 

I remember my first experience with this concept, I decided to practice thinking positively about  strangers using wonder and curiosity.  I would make eye contact with the grocery clerk and think in my mind, You are a lovely person, and in that moment they were!

By leading my thoughts with wonder, I generated a new feeling centered around appreciation vs. blame and criticism.  

Another trick I learned is to create a sound as a placeholder for pausing to allow yourself the opportunity to generate a new thought outside of the realm of blame or defensiveness.  When I notice the impulse to assign blame, if I make a hmmmm sound or pause and say nothing, I give myself the opportunity to think a second thought. 

My experience has been that in practicing wonder and remaining curious, I am presented with clarity around what is my responsibility/choice and what is someone else's responsibility/choices.  

The choice of wonder instead of blame is not an easy journey, however it is a very rewarding one! 

Remind yourself when you are having a thought about blaming someone else for your circumstance. Pause long enough to consider wondering and becoming curious about why you feel the way you do.  The insights will sure surprise you and your relationships will gleam a renewed clarity from your new sexy voice!


Lindsey Rainwater is an experienced consultant and coach  to the fitness and wellness industry.  She specializes in business development and leadership. Currently she is working with the Fitmarc Team helping Health Club owners all over the south central region of the united states propel their business forward via group exercise solutions.  For more information about Lindsey, follow her @lindseyrainh2o 

Life on Life's Terms: The Power of Feeling your Feelings

This past month has been a whirlwind of  emotions, thoughts, realizations and transition.

It is not often that life creates the opportunity to transition and transform to a new space because "something happened", but when it does I see it as an opportunity for personal re-birth.

A month ago almost to date my Father left this physical earth and passed on.  He had been sick for years with an illness informally known as Lou Gehrig's Disease and on Fathers day his time came.  

As I take a deep breath and collect my thoughts, I decided to show up and share about what the transition to life without my father has been like.  If nothing else to provide a space to hold anyone else suffering from the loss of a loved one,  you are loved and seen.

The power of feeling my feelings and honoring my process has been one of true reward.  I have always known that my feelings do not have to result in taking action and sometimes the best action to take is sitting still and allowing the process of riding the wave to complete.

I feel optimistically giddy to tell you that even in the midst of the deepest processing of emotion I have ever known, joy can also be felt.  Really the joy of being able to allow myself to go all the way with what I am feeling.  I create more aliveness in myself the more I embrace the process, and remember that no matter what, my process is perfect for me. 

Settling back into the familiar activities that add up to being my life, it feels special to be able to share my process with you.  I am joyfully optimistic that for whatever reasons that may be that I lost my father from this physical earth, only the most positive and abundant circumstances will follow in my life.  One of my dearest friends lovingly shared with me to "honor and own the unexpressed creativity and use it to express your life fully".  What a gift, to lovingly cary on the vibrant and loving character that was so freely woven into me.

love you Daddy!


Lindsey Rainwater is an experienced consultant and coach  to the fitness and wellness industry.  She specializes in business development and leadership. Currently she is working with the Fitmarc Team helping club owners all over the south central region of the united states propel their business forward via group exercise solutions.  For more information about lindsey, follow her @lindseyrainh2o