Taking active responsibility to request what you want is the fastest track to sexiness, giving you the power of choice vs. blame!
The discovery I wrote about is that taking responsibility for your choices instead of assigning blame to others for your feelings or circumstances. This sweet spot is where you gain access to your true aliveness.
Today I am sharing about what it is like after shifting from defensiveness/blame, what becomes the new filter for communication with others?
Wonder and Curiosity.
What does that look like?
I remember my first experience with this concept, I decided to practice thinking positively about strangers using wonder and curiosity. I would make eye contact with the grocery clerk and think in my mind, You are a lovely person, and in that moment they were!
By leading my thoughts with wonder, I generated a new feeling centered around appreciation vs. blame and criticism.
Another trick I learned is to create a sound as a placeholder for pausing to allow yourself the opportunity to generate a new thought outside of the realm of blame or defensiveness. When I notice the impulse to assign blame, if I make a hmmmm sound or pause and say nothing, I give myself the opportunity to think a second thought.
My experience has been that in practicing wonder and remaining curious, I am presented with clarity around what is my responsibility/choice and what is someone else's responsibility/choices.
The choice of wonder instead of blame is not an easy journey, however it is a very rewarding one!
Remind yourself when you are having a thought about blaming someone else for your circumstance. Pause long enough to consider wondering and becoming curious about why you feel the way you do. The insights will sure surprise you and your relationships will gleam a renewed clarity from your new sexy voice!
Lindsey Rainwater is an experienced consultant and coach to the fitness and wellness industry. She specializes in business development and leadership. Currently she is working with the Fitmarc Team helping Health Club owners all over the south central region of the united states propel their business forward via group exercise solutions. For more information about Lindsey, follow her @lindseyrainh2o