So what is the fastest way to your sexiest self? To best articulate for you, I want to talk about the fastest way to get off track when seeking your sexiest self.
When I think of my own understanding of Blame it goes a little something like this;
I am feeling (fill in the blank, angry, sad, happy) and it is because of (fill in the blank, person, thing, situation). Basically, shifting my energy outside of myself and assigning someTHING to the experience I am having. Blame is not always negative, it could be positive, all life experiences do affect us. I believe it is to the degree it takes us out of our essence (who we are minus persona) that it becomes less about feeling our feelings and more about being wrapped up in the drama.
The drama! this is the power behind blame and what makes it so seductive!
I want you to try something... put your pointer finger in the air and point your finger out in front of yourself and YELL, HA, HA, I got you, HA! and again HA! Do you feel it? the adrenaline coursing through you?
You just created an adrenaline rush by revving up your blame engine. There in point is the problem, we are all slightly to heavily addicted to that feeling... adrenaline. So to keep the adrenaline hamster wheel spinning, the fastest way in relationships to get there is BLAME!
So now that a very clear understanding of Blame and not being sexy has been reached, let's talk about how to shift out of blame and into responsibility aka. super sexiness. :)
Typically, underneath the blame, almost always is a feeling that is unaddressed and a request to get what you really want. Think about it, a lot of blame is really a cry for attention, just in the wrong place. You know the song "looking for love in all the wrong places", blame is not the problem, attention is! and everyone deserves and needs attention to survive. Taking active responsibility to request what you want is the fastest track to sexiness, giving you the power to choose vs. blame!
hmmmmm, next time you feel a feeling and start looking for it's proper assigner "I feel angry because you....." remember this article, pause and see if there is something you really want , or can really feel. Honor that and un cover another fresh breath of knowing yourself on an even more intimate level.
Lindsey Rainwater is an experienced consultant and coach to the fitness and wellness industry. She specializes in business development and leadership. Currently she is working with the Fitmarc Team helping Health Club owners all over the south central region of the united states propel their business forward via group exercise solutions. For more information about Lindsey, follow her @lindseyrainh2o